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看了题主的描述“大学不是都说过了就行了么,再加上最近迷上一本小说无法自拔……”我们来从这个角度聊一聊这个话题——
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著名心理学家 Daniel Kahneman 提出,每个人都有两个自我:“体验自我”和“记忆自我”。";i:6;a:4:{s:3:"tag";s:1:"b";s:6:"option";N;s:8:"original";a:2:{i:0;s:3:"[B]";i:1;s:4:"[/B]";}s:8:"children";a:1:{i:0;s:96:"体验自我,是那个亲身经历着我们人生的自己,是每时每刻的直接体验。";}}i:7;s:117:"但由于我们的一生中有太多个瞬间,所以活在当下的体验自我是没有记忆能力的。因此,";i:8;a:4:{s:3:"tag";s:1:"b";s:6:"option";N;s:8:"original";a:2:{i:0;s:3:"[B]";i:1;s:4:"[/B]";}s:8:"children";a:1:{i:0;s:150:"我们会“好了伤疤忘了疼”,也会贪图眼前的快乐。对于体验自我而言,幸福就是每一个当下的感官体验的满足。";}}i:9;s:74:"
被体验自我所主导又会有什么问题?那很可能就是——";i:10;a:4:{s:3:"tag";s:1:"b";s:6:"option";N;s:8:"original";a:2:{i:0;s:3:"[B]";i:1;s:4:"[/B]";}s:8:"children";a:1:{i:0;s:60:"让我们失去目标,永远停留在自己的舒适区。";}}i:11;s:273:"不想努力换句话说就是想停留在舒适区。Alasdair White 在 2009 年这么定义“舒适区”:人把自己的行为限定在一定的范围内,Ta 对这个范围内的人事都非常熟悉,从而有把握保持稳定的行为表现。在舒适区里,";i:12;a:4:{s:3:"tag";s:1:"b";s:6:"option";N;s:8:"original";a:2:{i:0;s:3:"[B]";i:1;s:4:"[/B]";}s:8:"children";a:1:{i:0;s:195:"“我们的不确定、匮乏和脆弱都降到最低,我们认为自己拥有足够的爱、食物、才能、时间,能够获得足够的欣赏,我们能感受到自己的控制力。”";}}i:13;s:712:"(Brown, 2010)
拖延,懒惰,贪婪……这些都与强大的体验自我密切相关,它常常破坏记忆自我完美的计划。比如,我们的记忆自我可能在新年伊始时定下了很多有意义的目标——要多看书,要学一门新语言,要每天去健身房运动。但在要实施时,贪图及时享乐与安逸的体验自我就会让我们偷懒、懈怠,最终一事无成。
长远来看,过于注重及眼前的舒适和欢愉,会让我们不愿,甚至不敢尝试任何会让自己承受一点痛苦或不适的挑战,永远无法踏出自己的舒适区。渐渐地,“活在当下”,“珍惜眼前”变成了用来暂时性逃避未来的借口。
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其实题主在问出“该怎么化解”的时候,一定程度上反应了自己打算转变的念头,这个时候,需要找到动机,助力一把。
在改变的过程中,为什么有的人很容易放弃或厌倦?有的人则会把不断地拓宽舒适区变成一种习惯,日复一日地向着“更好的自己”的目标前进?
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动机是什么?从字面意思上说,它指的是“想要做某件事的动力”。在心理学中,它是一种内在的驱动力,会影响到行为的几大要素——发端、方向、强度和持续性,使你向着目标不断前进。动机对于目标的设定和达成至关重要:它受到人心理上对目标的渴望程度的影响,但它能够维持人们追求目标的行为。
佛罗里达州立大学教授 Anders Ericsson 称,";i:26;a:4:{s:3:"tag";s:1:"b";s:6:"option";N;s:8:"original";a:2:{i:0;s:3:"[B]";i:1;s:4:"[/B]";}s:8:"children";a:1:{i:0;s:30:"动机是成就的关键因素";}}i:27;s:3:",";i:28;a:4:{s:3:"tag";s:1:"b";s:6:"option";N;s:8:"original";a:2:{i:0;s:3:"[B]";i:1;s:4:"[/B]";}s:8:"children";a:1:{i:0;s:276:"那些成功的人之所以成功,很多时候只是因为在某些事上,保持了比其他人更持久和强烈的动机。他认为,你在一件事情上做得越久,你的天赋和能力就会变得越不重要,相反,动机的影响会变得越来越重要。";}}i:29;s:707:"
20 世纪以来,动机逐渐成为心理学家的研究对象,著名的马斯洛需求层次理论就是动机的一种理论模型。一般来说,从来源上,研究者们都会把动机分为内在动机和外在动机。内在动机是指来自自己内心的动机,外在动机是指来自外部世界的动机。
此外,研究者还把动机分为正向、反向两种。正向动机是指以鼓励、认可、肯定等正面情绪主导的动机;负向动机则是以贬损、羞辱、威胁、不安全等负面情绪主导的动机。
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